Parental Alienation

– When litigation starts in matrimonial life, the most sufferer is our children. Parental Alienation is a child abuse. In India, child right is not well established, willingly or unwillingly you will not be able to meet your own child. Since our laws are heavily tilted towards women. No any feminist will talk about your child. To just make one false 498A women happy, they are always ready to make sacrifice of two life ( father and son). Its pathetic.

Parental Alienation describes a process through which a child becomes estranged from a parent as the result of the psychological manipulation of another parent. The child’s estrangement may manifest itself as fear, disrespect or hostility toward the distant parent, and may extend to additional relatives or parties. The child’s estrangement is disproportionate to any acts or conduct attributable to the alienated parent. Parental alienation can occur in any family unit, but is believed to occur most often within the context of family separation, particularly when legal proceedings are involved, although the participation of professionals such as lawyers, judges and psychologists may also contribute to conflict.

The child psychologist who first coined the term parental alienation syndrome (PAS) in 1985.

• Experience increased anger.
• Have heightened feelings of neglect (or even have their basic needs actually neglected while being caught in the middle of their parents’ fight).
• Learn a destructive pattern that they pass on to others.
• Take on a skewed view of reality and become prone to lying about others. 

As per Hindu Minority and Guardian Ship Act 1956, in section 6, It is clearly specified Father is the primary natural guardian of a legitimate boy/girl who attends five years of age, then mother is secondary. Feminists don’t want to take pain for justice either for father or son. It is recommended for a father to take dare of bringing the son with them. No litigations could be initiated against the father is always as first “Natural Guardian”. It is often seen that, false 498A IPC lady demands money for raising children, it is ex-facie established that the child get kidnaped at her hands, but she does not want to handover the child to his father, the false 498A IPC lady uses the child as a tool of extortion under the umbrella of organised crime. The most dangerous part is that, the delicate minds of the child’s gets poisoned by the opposite party against the distant father.

Since any tender age child is not able to understand the complex human transactions in his surroundings, alienated child is helpless, and not able to express their internal feelings to anyone. Although, and no one is available to listen to them at right place and right time.  On this hateful act, our Indian society are silent, where the child is losing all his fundamental rights of life and liberty to gets love of both father and mother. 

#ParentalAlienation – A silent epidemic as problem associated with Indian family moreover the logical unit of Indian society. 

Let’s coming to the solution of it.

Whatever are the circumstances, the family dispute ends with the dissolution of marriage (Divorce). That runs over years in family courts, if it is not Mutual Consent Divorce (MCD). Till the time child gets growing with a single parent and no one care for it, literally no one, I bet it. They are concerned only about #LegalExtortion but not for #SharedParenting.

#SharedParenting is the relief for both child and his parents (either mother or father). The child has nothing to do, why the hell husband & wife are fighting, He needs love and affection of both father and mother in equal interval of time. Though shared parenting approach & adoption in our society and judiciary (with  immediate effect as and when litigation starts in any matrimonial dispute) we could create a better family structure (because it is often seen that, child works as a strong pillar for jointing the families), society and moreover the child is the future of any country, he should be a good citizen in future, once he would be brought-up with the love and affection of both parents.

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Reference:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation_syndrome 

Custody and guardianship Act – Law Commission of India – Report No. 257, on 22-May-2015. 

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